Monday, July 21, 2014

Couples Therapy Round One

It is pretty taboo to talk about your marriage problems on a blog. However, after giving it a lot of thought and talking it over with my husband I've decided to share. It was always my goal to share the ups and downs of motherhood and marriage.

Let me start off with that I am very proud of my husband. Not a lot of husbands are open to therapy so the fact that he went is admirable. Two, he didn't put on a show for the Dr. R. He was honest. I'll admit that I was worried that in front of the male doctor that he might become prideful and hide some of our faults. He didn't and I thanked him for doing so. 

This session was all about communication. The doctor's point was that no one can make you feel a certain way. He made us each say something that the other did that made us feel angry. He then had us imagine if that same thing was said to someone else. Would they necessarily feel the same way? No! There is something within ourselves that causes us to set off by what the other one said. Once we can figure out why and also openly communicate what those things are we can fix those. 

Our homework was to sit down for 15 minutes twice a week and just communicate. We had to say one thing we appreciate about the other person and one thing we regret. It went great the first time. So far, so good. We go back in two weeks. 

5 comments :

  1. I love this. I think more people need to be real on their blog. It's not all rainbows and butterflies and it's nice to read something I think "I am not the only one!" I think it is awesome that your husband was honest and I hope it all goes well for you guys!

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  2. I love that you guys are working to better your marriage!!!

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  3. This is great and therapy is nothing to be ashamed of. Our marriage was almost destroyed after my husbands 4th Army deployment and it took a lot of work to get things back to a good place

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