There were several ways that a person can contaminate their relationship but one specific way that I'm guilty of is being a scorekeeper.
Overall, we as women are really good at remembering what we did for someone else and what they did for us. Isn't this specifically true with our husbands? I can mentally keep up with every single little thing that I do around the house or for him specifically. Jeremy is always calling me out for doing it. I'll say exactly what chores I've done today and he'll ask me why I'm keeping score. I keep score to validate myself and my role. I also feel the need to remind him of how much he hasn't done.
This is not a good practice. When you are keeping score you are playing a game. In a game there is a winner and a loser. Even if you win every single time, do you really want your husband to lose? Who is really losing? Probably the person who is killing themselves trying to win. But what are they really winning?